Originally Posted by Daniel
Back to health matters for a sex: HPV is very common. However, 4 strains that can lead to anal cancer can be transmitted even with condom use (the virus lives in the skin), so the vaccine is a good thing to be getting. It's not cheap! (may be hard to get insurance to pay for it) But it is recently available for gay men. My doc recommends that all young gay men should be getting it.
How is that being yourself hurts someone else? That is the thing to think about. The only thing that hurts is the belief that being gay is somehow bad, awful, sick and sinful. And that is not the case at all.
Those closest to you will be able to really get to know you- the real you- if they choose to. And that is a good thing. However, if they react badly that is no reflection on you. Rather, it is a reflection of their ignorance and misguided beliefs.
Wow, I didn't know that about HPV! Its kinda scary... and I never really thought about there being Anal Cancer, I feel like I need to study up on what some the risks are... I have pretty good insurance, do you think I could call them to see if its covered?
I see your point, I guess I just felt like I was hurting them by being who I am, you know, not living up to what they always thought I would turn out like. Dad does feel that being gay is bad, awful, sick and sinful, when he starts talking that way about gay people it really bothers me, I feel dirty or like some kind of sideshow freak. I know I need to do this, I'm tired of living a lie!
Daniel, I just wanna say thank you for taking the time to talk to me about this, it helps a lot, Its nice to have an understanding person to vent to. This means more to me than I could ever tell you. You've given me a lot to think about and shed some light on topics I never really thought about.