You are a dream! Great post and writing!
Chad- you might keep in mind that your Dad undoubtedly knows, and your telling him is simply going to be the moment when your being gay is acknowledged. Your dad may not like that. But then, he doesn't have too. In one scenario, he will listen and not say anything stupid. In the best case scenario he will tell you that he still loves you. And in a worst case..well...he might say all kinds of stupid things. No matter what happens, you will have gained a whole new life after having come out. And that really is the important thing. Coming out is about you, not about anyone else. It's certainly not about pleasing anyone.
It's time to stand in your own shoes and fill them up! And that is a good thing.
Be the love you seek.