Originally Posted by ireland
Shes so so down at the min, she has this guilt which is dragging her down the double life so to speak. I feel so terrible, i looked in her eyes today and i felt sick as its me thats making her feel this, if she'd never have met me she would be fine.
Is you hadn't met it would be someone else. In fact, it probably was, in HS or middle school. Bet she had a crush on some girl. So please don't give yourself guilt for being who you are.
And no: she would not be fine if she hadn't met you. There's nothing wrong with falling in love, is there? The fact that she is too afraid to follow her heart is her problem right now.
And if she is projecting the thought onto you that what is happening between you both is your fault, then she needs counseling. But then- she DOES need counseling, right? She needs help getting out of the fundi/conservative mindset- from all you have said about it.
By the way: how much work are you getting done with all this tornado of stuff going on? Please be careful: you don't want to lose your job over this.
There is a reason why office romance is a big 'no-no' with many companies.