Originally Posted by pnggrad79
I thought she really didn't take this seriously. Anyway she grabbed a piece of paper off the floor and scribbled on it for about 10 minutes and we shared our lists. First on her list was for me, since I got home first, was to at least have a plan of what we were going to eat that night. I took issue with that, because I work just as hard as she does, and I didn't feel it was fair for me to have the burden of doing that after a long day.
Here's what I hear.
1) She didn't spend all night writing up her list so her doing it for 10 minutes isn't worthy of you. Ergo: your love for her MUST be worth more, while hers for you is doggy-poo.
2) You criticize what she gives you. In fact, I bet you rate her all the time. Gee that's nice to live with (this kind of stuff is usually done to us as kids and we pass it on without awareness. I am betting the source was your mother).
I wasn't there, and you are only giving your side of the story. But you know what? Neither of you is looking very pretty. You both love this insane power trip you inflict on each other, which is why I am going to go back to something I asked earlier on this thread and you completely ignored: what are you getting out of this constant bickering? What's the payoff?
You keep scratching this wound, making it bleed over and over again, which tells the reader that something is very very wrong.
You need professional help to deal with this. The story you've recounted is just the tip of the iceberg. And if you don't deal with the underlying issues, you are going to replicate them in your next relationship, that is, if you don't start back up with your 2 month moved away girl-friend for round 5.
Be the change you seek!