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Old 08-06-2010, 03:30 PM
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Just wondering if someone might have some insight into a situation that's come up. I posted a blog on my facebook page yesterday, sharing my feelings about some lgbt issues. A number of responses came from a guy who I've considered a friend, though not a close friend, and he happens to be the boyfriend of a woman I do consider to be one of my best friends. I'll call her Linda.

I was a little shocked, since he's never shared his views on this before, and basically stated, among other things, that homosexuality is wrong, and that heterosexuality is the "natural, scientific, choice." (I wonder how many scientists would agree with him...) He also echoed the empty words that many homophobes will say about how "I have gay friends and I still love them." Of course, I did find this a bit hurtful, and one of my first instincts was to delete him from my friends list.

The guy is obviously ignorant, not a bad person but very ignorant, and though he claims he's not a Christian and is "anti-Church," has obviously not shaken off fundamentalist ideas. Linda, of course, is also my facebook friend, so she's seen everything he posted, as well as my response, though I've not heard anything from her since. We were actually supposed to get together tomorrow, which may not be happening now.

She's always been very supportive and accepting, so I'm guessing she's probably embarassed. How do I handle this whole situation? I'm not sure now if I still consider this man my friend, but I'm very close to Linda, and this whole thing is just touchy. Generally, whenever I get together with her, he's there, too. I'm not going to backdown from my position, of course, but I want to preserve my relationship with Linda if possible.
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