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Old 08-07-2010, 11:04 PM
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I make light of some of this, but in reality, I know every step is excruciatingly hard.
Hi Pianoplayer! Great to see you back on the Forum.

I'm narrowing in on one thing you wrote above. And that is, is every step excruciating? I wonder about that. My experience has been that the 'biggies', that is, parents and family can be the hardest to handle, especially if they are religiously conservative and their stated view are homophobic. Otherwise, once the emotionally charged persons are dealt with, things can become much easier.

One big step- I believe- is dealing with one's one internal homophobia. Making peace with that can be tricky. It takes time. And a great deal of compassion- compassion for ones self.

All this to say: what are you waiting for in coming out to your mother? What's holding you back? Fear? Fear that she is going to reject you? Say nasty things? Disinherit you? Whatever the reason, you can deal with it- I bet- as you say to Chad on this thread - one step at a time.

Congrats on being in relationship!
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