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Old 09-01-2010, 02:59 PM
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Thanks guys for the words of caution. She hasn't yet committed anything to me except that we will raise a child together and I will move back in at some point. I know I have expressed a lot of pain and doubt and fear with this relationship, and honestly never thought she would EVER want me back. This past 3 weeks have done nothing but begin to restore my faith in our relationship. She is still guarded and so am I. She is the one who left, but feels "guarded", like I wasn't the one devastated. Oh well, we are working it out and doing The Love Dare together. It has forced us to face some really hard questions and make some agreements with each other. I covet your prayers and see this as an answer from God. He is plainly the only one who could have made her change her mind. It was nothing I did, I assure you. This was all her choice.

I have told her in no uncertain terms that I simply cannot endure her abandonment any longer. If we bring a child, she cannot leave. In fact, that option needs to be taken off the table.
Sorry to beat a dead horse, but a book is NOT enough. Certainly not enough for a relationship that has gone through the trauma that your has had already.

It's like this gal looks at you and your brain shuts off because you are getting a high. Ok. Fair enough. Being in love is great stuff. But that is not going to deal with the stuff that has gone down and - if not addressed- will happen again. You are looking at 4 going on 5 times being abandoned if there is a kid involved.

You need professional counseling. And after reading of your complete turn-around, that is, since the words of your own kids haven't penetrated very deeply, there is very little reason to believe that you are going to heed the warning signs and any advice given. You are going to do what you are going to do. You've written some really strong words here. And now seem to discount them as if they don't matter. That alone should give one pause.

The word BEWARE is made up of two words: BE & AWARE. And from your recent post you don't seem to be heeding even your own thoughts. What's it gonna take? Another cut and run from your ex?
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Last edited by Daniel; 09-02-2010 at 09:16 AM. Reason: edited & amended for clarity
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