I would like to add that we have pretty good evidence that, historically, this is one of those rules that no matter what the prevailing attitudes of the society, no one has ever really followed. A recent study of people across multiple different age groups found that, across the board, about 90% of people have had sex before marriage. Looking backwards, at the Puritans, historians have found a statistically significant number of newly weds with "premature births". I'm not saying "everyone else is doing it so it's clearly ok", but I think it's worth considering that even in societies where people collectively agree it's not, there's still a very small number of people who don't. Maybe we're not wired for that?
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