It's true that it's not always the healthiest approach. But e.g. after breakups it is the best solution to go on living (maybe after a week or so). After my last breakup when I had to move away all over the continent, I put all my energy into the accomodation of my new appartment so I couldn't think about him too often. I bought stuff in my
favorite beauty shop Schrammek and tried to make some friends. And of course, I went to church very often to find some balance...
However, if a beloved person dies, it is not so easy to pretend nothing happened. In this case, it is absolutely okay not to be okay and it is important to grief for this person.
I am really sorry that so many strokes hit you and I will pray for you. Thankfully, you have such a good friend who helps you stand this hard time...