Originally Posted by bnmoore
I am a stranger to you. I know myself fairly well. I have a tendency to hurt myself at least emotionally if no-one else is around to do it for me. If there's no such thing as a gret how can there be a re-gret? I've stayed in relationships well past their expiration date out of a sense of guilt. Maybe I've learned something from my own pain. I don't love the "other" any less, it's just taken a different shape. It's really not a failure, it's growth.
I like the way you explain this! I'm try to remember that it is part of life to hurt and be hurt, love and be loved, make mistakes and move on. Regret may or may not come, but even if it does, that too is a fairly normal part of living.
There have been several people who have come into my life that I very quickly grew to love. Some of them have now been out of my life for much longer than they were ever in it and I have learned to let them go. I find that I still love them however and after there year's presence and six year absence, I wish that things had gone differently. Others I can spend an evening with and know that I should not have them in my life, but the sense of security that I regain in the presence brings me back again and again.
I always try to see the best in people. While that is usually a blessing, there comes a time where it almost feels like a curse.