You sound like a great mom, I hope your openness helps your daughter find her way through this time in her life. Unfortunately, I think you will continue to wrestle with the issue if you stay at your current church. Any sermons or reading materials that refer to homosexuality will be biased against it. There are some great reading materials on the Soulforce website that can help you understand the issue from a different perspective, but I suggest you find a church to which your whole family can feel a sense of belonging. Blessings to you and your family.