I personally do not understand this Stephen Bennett guy. I fought my same sex attraction for 12 years before anything physical happened. And to my great surprise- I finally figured out what I had been wanting and MISSING for 12 stupid, long years. I was fighting, and arguing, and repressing, and pushing away the best thing to happen to me and now I am like WHY????? My wife is the best lover, the best friend, the best companion I could ever hope for and I am wondering why I didn't do this sooner. Everytime I think about it, I could kick myself. I fell in love at 28 with a woman, and didn't marry her until I was 43. Too long and too much time wasted. Ex-gay? No way, would I EVER go back to what I had before. Not when I have what I have now. I finally know what it is all about now. Finally. The puzzle all fits now. Stephen Bennett, I hope you succeed in your quest to find peace, but sweetie, if you are gay, you will always be that way. That is who God created you to be, buddy. Quit fighting it and embrace it and you will find happiness.