Does sbtx have a boyfriend or significant other? If not, she needs one, to take the heat off of you. You had to be true to your orientation and she needs to get off her high horse, respect the fact that you are being authentic and true and not lying anymore to her or to God or the world, for that matter. Either that, or she just needs to grow up. If you did nothing to the childen before you came out, why does she think you are not safe with them now? All of sudden you're gay, and a pedophile? Please!!! My own sister let my 3 and 4 yo nephews stay with me overnight a MONTH before I came out and when she found out that I was a lesbian, all of a sudden I was a bad influence and was turning my nephews into flaming homosexuals. I answered back rather sarcastically, and said, "Yeah everynight I whispered into their little ears 'You are so gay'. Furthermore, I want them to be homosexuals because they will so enjoy the hatred and judgment from their mother that their aunt has received." I admit it was the wrong thing to say, but it just shows how stupid and ignorant some really intelligent people can be be about this.