Marriage details!

[Vanessa White]

Okay, let your creative juices flow. If you could have or are planning to have a wedding or commitment ceremony, where would it be and what would it (and you) look like? I feel like I go through days when I kind of obsess a little about how I would plan it, so it got me curious about all of my friends here.

For myself (and whoever the other self is ) I would like to have the ceremony in Vermont or Provincetown. I would like it to be a female minister. I would like to wear some type of wedding dress- not necessarily a flowing gown, but something pretty formal and a veil, but no shoes! I would like to have the ceremony outside, and have myself and my love enter under the gazebo type decoration together. I want very few people there, definitely family and only a very few friends. I want quiet music of some type, maybe guitar/folk type music. I want LOTS of flowers, and to create vows that come from the deepest part of my soul. I want my daughter to be part of the ceremony, and I want a big party with music and food and drink and laughter and love. Basically, I want it all, and I know that it will be for me someday...... What about the rest of you? Do tell!

[schoolboi]

I am a real queen when it comes to weddings! I keep a book of wedding ideas and buy lots of wedding mags. I will elaborate on my personal dreams in a later post when I have some time.

[NonLemming]

Find a beautiful natural spot, not too out of the way for witnesses, but out of view of anything manmade. Have a justice of the peace officiate, with no funds wasted on decor. Then back to a major bash at a private place.

Ideal ceremony for me.

[tdogg]

On the beach just before sunset, barefoot, soft music playing mixed with the sounds of birds, those who love us (both of us) are there, the two of us and our official/minister/ministress and God with our loved ones in a simple yet moving ceremony some of which was penned by us, nothing too formal for wear and definitely no shoes! Oh, and if it was perfect our dogs would be there too!

After, a wild party at a rented house and lots and lots of dancing, singing, laughing and general celebrating!

[Joe Brummer]

Well, I just did it on September 24th of 2005.

It was a garden party in my boss and friend's backyard. The gang I work with and friends collected dining room tables from all over and china from other friends. Each table was set in the garden with nice linens and a glass hurricane globe in the center.

We had the ceremony under an harbor with a justice of the peace. My sister read a beatiful Walt Whitman Poem and my partner and I wrote the ceremony.

It was a blast and I can't remember half of it because it seem to fly by with so much going on at once. I could send you the ceremony if you wanted to read it.

[Jennifer5]

I actually invision the same thing as tdogg..... beach... no shoes... family and close friends... even that party sounds perfect. weird how close that is.

Joe... please post if you can... it sounds wonderful.... do you have pictures that you are able to post?

[Lydia]

This is what was read at my wedding. I'm not a very traditional person. Neither is my SO. We were happy with a short, sweet civil ceremony at city hall. No fuss, no muss -


"While they had known each other online for some time previously, Lydia and Drew met in person one year ago tomorrow when Drew visited Lydia after attending a Universalist conference near her home in Ohio.

While both Lydia and Drew consider themselves to be Christians, they also consider themselves to be Freethinkers who do not generally accept the status quo, and as such have requested that I say a few words about their wedding and marriage. Lydia and Drew would like to announce that their wedding today and their continuing marriage shall not be construed as an endorsement of matrimony as an historically unjust institution, nor as a sanction of any remaining marital laws which might still be unfair.

Lydia and Drew will each retain their respective birth names, and prefer to avoid the labels "husband" and "wife" as much as is possible and practical. Lydia and Drew are peers, friends and lovers; and neither of them wishes to be a manager of the other, as the term "husband" implies, or the property of the other, as the term "wife" has been used.

Lydia and Drew wish it to be known that they are appreciative of your presence here today. A wedding is a public testimony for the sake of family and friends, society and legality. But a marriage is a very personal thing.To Lydia and Drew, a marriage is an affectionate agreement between equals, a loving contract between peers that requires no blessing above or beyond the mutual respect, admiration and trust of two individuals who cannot imagine not spending the rest of their lives together.

Anyone who knows Lydia and Drew as individuals knows that neither of them is apt to sacrifice their individuality for any reason; but you also know that as a couple united in love and common goals, they most often find themselves thinking and acting "as one," in harmony. Both of them know that you cannot give or receive love unless you love yourself first. Marriage is not an institution in which the self is lost: it is a place where the self is found. Lydia and Drew have found themselves, with each other, "at home." "

[Mia14]

Okay, I've been thinking about this a lot lately and going throguh so many maybes. Nothing's set yet, but I don't think I want a white dress either, Zerbie. Instead, I think I'd like me and mine to wear complimenting, but not identical dresses - something simple, but elegant and pretty.

I have a very large Italian family, so I'd like to invite them all (whether or not all will attend is another thing entirely), but I don't think many people from her family will come at all. They don't even know we're together yet and we're already this far in.

I'd like the general theme of the wedding, as long as the large Italian family will actually come, to be more focused on the people. Food will probably be modest, as will decor and location, because the two of us will likely foot the entire bill ourselves. I'm not sure where I'd like yet (I want us BOTH to decide) or even when, but I'd like to propose in May (but not this one) and maybe get married in May as well. Something about May...

[sbonser04]

i think i want it to be very simple.....i would want my closest friends and hopefully my parents and brother would be there......but i don't know how they would handle that.

anyhow i would probably wear a simple suit, i really don't like dresses, and my girl could wear whatever she wanted to wear....i guess we would have to be in a state where it was legal, or canada. a JP could do the ceremony, exchange rings, b/c music is a big part of my life i would probably write a song and play it for her......and then a reception w/ lots of music, food, and alcohol haha.

of course the perfect wedding for me would be w/ a certain person......*wink wink*

[Mia14]

Silly you, sbonser, let's not put the carriage before the horse... you need to date the girl before you can marry her!