Is it Possible?

[tymejumper]

In my opinion, that is how it's suppost to be. The friendship first and the passion last. It does take time to grow. You really have to watch it if you just want to get the other person into bed, I think that means you ahve great chemistry, but as Ann Landers says "true love is friendship that caught on fire". I have found that to be true for myself. I enjoyed getting to know my wife so much, we talked about everything we could. We found out what we had in common. There didn't feel like there was pressure for me to do anything because I knew she would be there so there was not a rush. You are doing great Christine. Hold on and take your time. You will thank yourself later for it.

[pnggrad79]

CT,
My wife and I knew each other for 12 years before we ever became physical in our expression of love to one another. We denied over and over again that we were in love with each other. When I finally admitted it, we had been physical for about a year. Because sex is so emotional and so attached to my feelings for another person, I began to wonder what sex meant to me in relationship to her. I was still married ( I know, adultery and all that) but having sex with a woman. My marriage was already dead,so sex with her was exhilirating. But love? I knew I loved her, but being IN LOVE is a totally different thing. I did a lot of thinking about it and came to the conclusion that all those years I spent denying how I felt and calling it everything but what it was, was a complete waste of time. I admitted to myself and to God that I was in love with a woman. I stopped fighting it and called it what is was- I AM A LESBIAN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

You, on the other hand, have been on a rollercoaster this past year, and clearly you are doing the right thing by taking it slow and letting yourself heal. I am so happy for you that you have taken the time to get to know this woman and finding out if this is what you want. Best of luck to you, and I hope that it all goes well.

Any word from the ex?