Where you want to be in 5 years?

[KevinS]

Hey:

You are absolutely right that writing down your goals helps make them a reality. Just last month, I looked back to Jan 1, 2008 at what I had hoped to accomplish in that year. I wanted to come out to my family and friends; I wanted to leave my marriage of 17 years in a non-destructive manner; I wanted to find a loving partner. I rarely reviewed that list - it seemed like too much to hope for.

Looking back from Jan 1, 2009, I was amazed to realize that the impossible dream all happened. I left my marriage, but in a good way - we are keeping the house together and sharing custody of our 3 kids from there. All my family and friends know I am gay - some are supportive, some are not, whatever! And I met the most wonderful man, Blake, and we are planning to get married next summer or fall (it's so nice to be Canadian! )

I also looked back a little further to 2007 - when I decided at 40 years old that my goal was to go back to school and do my MBA. Now, I am over half way through - doing it in part time in the evening. The best part is that I had no idea how I would afford it when I wrote down the goal - it was impossible. But my employer stepped to the plate and is paying 100% of it! Who knew??

Write your goals down no matter how impossible they seem. I don't know what it is, but somehow things start to align themselves when you have a focus.

Kevin.