Will I ever get over her?

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I don't know what to think anymore. I loved this woman for the better part of half my life so far. I don't know if I loved who I wanted her to be, and the stark reality is that she is a narcissistic control freak with avoidance issues, and too demanding and self centered. When I get to missing her I ask myself do I miss all that? Do I miss constantly being made to feel second to everything else she wanted? Do I miss being lied to? Do I miss being told "I will never leave you" and then leaving me 5 times for dumbass reasons? Do I miss her really? Or do I miss what I wanted?

I wanted a love that lasted forever. I know that is a little pie in the sky but I wanted it nonetheless. I thought she meant what she said. I thought she loved me. She said she did, many times, but I guess it wasn't enough. I never could please her. I never could do enough to make her want to stay. But should I have to?

Will I ever get over her? Since she probably was an illusion in my head, I hope that I do. I want to love someone, and I want to be loved. I don't want to be controlled, manipulated, lied to, left, thrown away and discarded. Is that too much to ask?