Hello all

[KrisFro]

Hello All, My Name is Kris and I am a 40 year old mother who I guess has known for a looooong time that my daughter was gay, lol. From the time she was little, she was THE biggest tom boy around, she played foot ball from the time she was 6 or 7 all the way till her freshman year in high school when she figured out the Boys weere getting WAY to big. We have always lived in small communities where everyone knows everyone. I myself was raised in a pretty strict Christian Reformed home, well that was until I got pregnant at 16 and had VERY bad experience with the pastor at the church we were attending at the time, I haven't been back to church much since then. But my theory on religion is that you don't HAVE to be a member of a "Church" to be a good, Spirtiual person, I have my beliefs and I respect others beliefs. That is pretty much my whole outlook about life in general.....Through out the years I have had several gay people in my life, AND the lives of my kids.......my daughter, has ALWAYS become VERY close to them, and now I am realizing why, although I never really put 2 and 2 together until the last several months to a year. She could relate to them and found comfort in their relationships....I have read alot on things people feel when their kids come out to them....and Yea I have felt alot of them feelings. I always thought I was open minded, and I wanted my kids to be able to talk to me about things, but they were all scared and still are, to tell me ANYTHING....I don't really know why, I think it is because I have taught them (not on purpose) to try to make everyone happy, and they figured the things going on would not make me happy,or would dissapoint me, and I have failed as a mother to teach them to make THEMSELVES happy.....so that is what I will strive to do......or should I say my daughter IS teaching ME to do.....lol. I look forward to getting to know some new friends