Your thoughts/musings/questions on bisexuality

[Dash]

Yes, Daniel...what a great song that is!!!

I don't know about sexual attraction, Lydia, but I've sometimes been more open or less open (emotionally) to the female gender. There were a number of years where I really didn't like girls much at all. It begin to change when I went back to school a couple years ago and I have some new beautiful friendships with women again.

Course...there has been the occasional crazy morning where I have literally sat bolt upright in bed from a dream of having full-on sex with a girl!!!

Hahah!!!

[Zerbie]

Originally Posted by Lydia

This might be too personal of a question for a public board, but..



Does anyone else find themselves periodically finding themselves attracted to one gender more than the other? And just when you're used to that - the bigger attraction switches to the other gender?

(Waves hand wildly in air)

Oh yeah. Started out 100% into girls/women. Had a brief interest in a man when 19 years old. Then many females and no males at all til 27 3/4s years old. Either I am bisexual and periodically blind to one gender or the other, or I was a lesbian and am now straight, or I am sequentially bisexual (that is to say, alternately gay and straight) in 28 year cycles. Could it have to do with orbit of Jupiter around the sun?


Dash raises an interesting part of the question. Emotional versus sexual attraction. Sometimes they do not go together, but can be profound even when separate. I have had a tendency to be more romantically, sexually inspired by women, but more emotionally attracted, comfortable, and compatible with men. When the entire thing happens at once for an individual, it is most amazing.

[Daniel]

Originally Posted by Dash

Course...there has been the occasional crazy morning where I have literally sat bolt upright in bed from a dream of having full-on sex with a girl!!!

My lateral thinking here, but I've had more than one dream where I was giving birth- and woke up with a start and a yell. There's been the occasional dream like yours too.....interesting. I wonder if straight guys have dreams of sleeping with men? And would they admit to it? What do you think? I've never heard of it.

[Zerbie]

Originally Posted by Daniel

My lateral thinking here, but I've had more than one dream where I was giving birth- and woke up with a start and a yell. .

Oh *my!* I'm female, and I've NEVER had a dream like that.

That's fascinating!

I frequently dream that I'm a man. I'm always some big, tall, sexy hot number, and I'm usually having sex in the dreams. It's great fun!

When I'm playing "myself" in sex dreams, they can be with either gender. One odd thing I noticed about erotic dreams is that I frequently dream I'm having passionate sex with someone I know in real life (it's always a DIFFERENT someone ) who I am not at ALL attracted to. Not one whit. I wake up and can't believe what I was dreaming.

I've never heard of straight guys having sex dreams about other guys, either, though I'm sure it's happened.

[Vanessa White]

Although I have had spiritual/emotional attractions to men in the last few years at times, and physical/sexual attraction to them at times in the way past, if we are talking dreams here....

I do have dreams on occasion of being physically close/kissing a woman, and then, when we are making love, the person is a man. Not sure what that is all about. The dream world is so vivid and strange. Yet, if we are talking straight men dreaming about sex with men, I would bet that even if they wouldn't admit it, that many of them have fantasized or imagined sex with another man. There are studies that indicate a high percentage of young adults at least fantasize about same gender sexual encounters at some point in their lives. I can believe it.

[tdogg]

No one hears much about straight men having sex dreams with other men because they likely won't admit it! It's so nice to see real men who aren't afraid of themselves - they are in touch with their masculinity, femininity and whatever their "self" consists of! For that matter, it's nice to see women okay with all of their "self" too.

I am attracted to certain men, but can't ever see myself in a romantic relationship with one again - including sex even for unemotional purposes. It's that part where the attraction stops. To best put this quote from a book I recently read - "it's not that I don't like ...(insert your word for that certain male part), it's just that I prefer them on women..." I have never felt fulfilled emotionally, physically or spiritually from any of my past relationships with men. What I see now, is that it wasn't so much that they were men, but that for me, I can only get that from a woman.

I rarely have sex dreams of me and my partner - its normally me and someone else, a stranger or someone I know. And sometimes they do morph into a different gender or even individual. If I do dream of my partner, most often it's because the individual morphed into my partner. never dreamed of giving birth thank goodness!