Monsters abuse children AND dogs... / A peek into the mind of James Dobson

[NathanATX]

http://powerofnarrative.blogspot.com...n-further.html

"Children are so tremendously variable that it is sometimes hard to believe that they are all members of the same human family. Some kids can be crushed with nothing more than a stern look; others seem to require strong and even painful disciplinary measures to make a vivid impression. This difference usually results from the degree to which a child needs adult approval and acceptance. The primary parental task is to see things as the child perceives them, thereby tailoring the discipline to his or her unique needs. Accordingly, a boy or girl should never be so likely to be punished as when he or she knows it is deserved."

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"3. The spanking may be too gentle. If it doesn't hurt, it doesn't motivate a child to avoid the consequence next time. A slap with the hand on the bottom of a multidiapered 30-month-old is not a deterrent to anything. Be sure the child gets the message -- while being careful not to go too far."

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and a fight with his DASCHUND puppy, "Siggy"...

"I had seen this defiant mood before, and knew there was only one way to deal with it. The ONLY way to make Siggie obey is to threaten him with destruction. Nothing else works. I turned and went to my closet and got a small belt to help me 'reason' with Mr. Freud.

"What developed next is impossible to describe. That tiny dog and I had the most vicious fight ever staged between man and beast. I fought him up one wall and down the other, with both of us scratching and clawing and growling and swinging the belt. I am embarrassed by the memory of the entire scene. Inch by inch I moved him toward the family room and his bed. As a final desperate maneuver, Siggie backed into the corner for one last snarling stand. I eventually got him to bed, only because I outweighed him 200 to 12!"

[NathanATX]

Here's some great info on Falwell...

http://powerofnarrative.blogspot.com...ecame-how.html

[srspring]

Nathan,

You don't have to convince me! Most of the people like Dobson are seriously evil. They have sick cruel and dirty minds. It is terrible to see all of the followers of these nut cases stare into space listening to every sick word they puke up out of their dysfunctional being. I only wish that more people would come forward to tell the world "LOOK! DON'T YOU SEE HOW SICK THESE PEOPLE ARE!" How dare he whip a poor little dog with a belt!!!
If I ever saw him doing that, I would surely be in jail. I think this should be publicized as much as possible. Maybe to the Humane Society? He is an evil little sick man.

srspring

[pnggrad79]

I have seen first hand how evil this man really is-and how he has the gall to villify homosexuals is really beyond my comprehension.

My sister and I both read "The Strong Willed Child". Part of it, I agreed with, and used, but didn't really agree with most of it. My sister, being the fundy she is, took it literally and used it religiously with her boys and so lets look at the results, shall we? By the way, my father, upon hearing that I was a lesbian said, "If your children succeed it will be in SPITE of you, not BECAUSE of you." So given all that, let's look at this situation.

1. I am the lesbian mother of two daughters, ages 18 and 15. Neither daughter has ever been in jail, gotten pregnant, done drugs, drink, or otherwise cause me a minutes worry. Their problem? Laziness, they can't keep their room clean. (Believe me, I will take a messy room any day of the week, compared to what they could be doing!!)

2. My sister is the straight mother of 3 boys, 22, 18 and 14. The 22 year old has warrants out for his arrest, namely buying alcohol for a minor. He never went to court or paid his fines, so he is being hunted. He smokes pot, drinks and can't hold a job. The 18 year old is so gay it isn't even funny. (not that being gay is bad, it isn't, but my family would think it is) But he won't dare come out to his mother. She would blame me of course.(not that I was around him growing up, but you know how mental telepathy works and all.) The 14 year old is ADHD to the max. The jury is still out on him.

Hmmm, #1 didnt' really do Dobson, #2 did religiously. So if Dobson's advice really does work and his method is fool proof-I think we need to rethink Mr. Dobson's advice. I realize you have to take each child and learn what works with them and what doesn't, but in general I don't feel hitting a child teaches them anything but how to be violent and to be fearful. I didn't spank my children often. They will tell you that too. I learned to pick my battles and fortunately, I didn't have that many. I have good girls and I know I don't know all there is to know about parenting, and what I did to raise them sure isn't the best or the only way. But my being a lesbian had nothing whatsoever to do with how good they turned out!!!! There dad, what do you think now?