Gay virginity?

[Bearnabas]

Thanks for your comments. No, I haven't practiced much with a condom yet... I'll have to get used to it. I just never had an opportunity yet.

As for "sex as teacher"--that might be a cool way to look at it too.

Appreciate all your comments---and I think I'm ready.... (looks around at empty room)... for a good relationship....(looks around again....)

I'll have to leave the room.

[Daniel]

Originally Posted by Bearnabas

Thanks for your comments. No, I haven't practiced much with a condom yet... I'll have to get used to it. I just never had an opportunity yet.

Go get some and practice my friend! Great sex doesn't just 'happen'. After all, the brain is the largest sex organ! No....not over that head.....the other one!

As someone who works in the arts and helps people get ready for a career, here is something to keep in mind:

One must be ready for opportunites when they present themselves.

The singer has to have some roles under his/her belt so that when one is asked "Can you sing such and such" he/she smiles and say "Yes...I know that!"

Forgive my silliness, but I think life is like that too.

Every good boy scout is prepared!

~

David!

You're shocked? Girlfriend.....darling....this affair you've having out in the open....under everyone's noses.....now that's shocking! Oh...but I'm stealing Andy's lines.

Shame on me!

[Zerbie]

Originally Posted by Bearnabas

I wish we were all in the same town, or same state, so I could give you all a big consensual, yet platonic, hug.



Zerbie, I know of that thing you call...masturbation...it is God's saving grace. "Without it, how lost I would be...." to mangle a hymn.

Whew! For a moment there, I thought you had gone 38 years. . . .



I want to edit my last comments--or addend them. I don't think I can just run off and have sex...my first time has to be for love. I just don't think I can throw away all my inhibitions built up like calcium deposits...(what an image!) in one triple whammy. Maybe I'm weird this way, but if I'm gonna go all the way, love is going to make it a more pleasurable and less guilt-ridden experience. I don't even know if I could do some things without really, really liking that person a lot to be that intimate--I mean sex involves a lot of vulnerability and topical creams.

So true! Having inhibitions about sex is actually far more common in American society than NOT having them. Consider yourself in the majority on that point. While I'm among the more uninhibited personality types, I share your pickiness about just who gets that close to me. It took me a bit of a while to find my handsome husband, though not as long as I thought it might.

What's great is having a loving, uninhibited partner with whom you share deep, abiding trust. Always communicate. I think partners should feel comfortable to talk about sex, what kind of touch they like, don't like, etc. It's wonderful when all those characteristics of trust, love, and communication line up between two who love each other. I wish that for you, someday soon.


By the way, I'm four years old as a gay man--very very very LATE blooomer in figuring things out. Anyone else think that there was a gay demon out there trying to make you "turn gay" and that this battle between innocent man and gay demon was a holy battle you had to win to save your penis for the right woman? Okay, well, maybe just me, but that's the way I thought of homosexuality--an outside force, not an inner drive--something affecting me, trying to hurt me, not something that may be inherently me, God-created part of me. So for 34 years, I battled that demon pretty well,

No, not that unusual. I know people who came out after age 30 and after age 40. And yes, they enter their "real" adolescence THEN. What matters is having the growing experiences and being who we were created to be, not exactly WHEN we do. I think many gay people believed that *homosexuals* were the "other" people, and then when feelings of attraction for their own sex hit, they thought the feelings did not belong - like, how could these feelings hit a "normal" person like me? Our entire society is told that gay is something one decides to be, but that human nature is really always heterosexual. Folks are still trying to squelch any teaching of the actual fact of the matter; is it any wonder that many gay folks don't understand right off the bat that what they're taught is a lie?

[BrianB]

Originally Posted by runningFREAK

I was wondering what everyones thoughts were about this.. I know in the christian faith obstaining from premarital sex is a big thing, I agree with it too. BUt you find in the homosexual community that there is just about no one that believes that. I think partially is becasue there is no option to marry but and there isnt a strong faith base in the community. So i was wondering what evryones thoughts both personaly and biblically where on that.

I noticed that we're both from Ohio. Since same-sex marriages have been banned in Ohio; I think the best you can do is a long-term, commited, sexual relationship between consenting adults. Maybe one day the gay marriage ban amendment will be repealed in Ohio's constitution. One can only hope!