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[Freespirited]

Baigle!

Welcome!! I am a newbie here also, and I can tell people here are really genuine! I don't post much but from having read most posts the advice and support shared and given amongs Soulforce members is really going to help you tremendously with your current situation at home in a positive way!!

I particularly like the fact that this is a safe place for every gay and lesbian persons from many walks of life and religious beliefs! I myself love the great diversity that is so much part of Soulforce! stay here, you will love it!!


LEANDRO

[tdogg]

Baigle

Welcome to the Soulforce forums! Glad you found your way here. Baigle, you will find that you are not only welcomed here, but treasured. You will find so many friends that will encourage, support and defend you, give you a (virtual) shoulder to cry on or just lean on a little, a pat on the back, a brush of your hair with their virtual fingertips, a lot of love.

I'm sorry that you are dealing with your parents (they can be tough can't they??!!), and all they are putting you through. Stay strong. Like Z says, you will be on your own soon and you can live your life how you were meant to live it.

Tdogg

[bsnyder83]

yeah, coming out pretty much sucks. It is so scary, especially in an environment where there is obvious homophobia. However there are many great surprises. For example, my dad, a hard working Harley Davidson guy, told so many gay jokes that i thought he would have punched me right in the face when i came out. After we talked, everything was fine. One of the last times I visited home, he pushed two twin beds together so me and my boyfriend could sleep together (and we did JUST sleep), it blew me away, i amlost teared up. And know my boyfriend gets Christmas presents from my entire family and holiday cards have both are names on it. Its the little stuff like that that makes it worth it. It gets better, hell it can't get worse! Hang in there. Maybe you're Dad will have a turn around like mine, you never know what time will do.

Ben

[TheInsidellama]

It can be scary, I have had crazy things happen between me and my mom and the computer. Even though I am still young have been looking for that right person, thought I found him but he ran away from me ... I think there may be something else hidden there but I will never know.

[Angeleliza41]

Hello Baigle,
Terry Pratchett is one of my favorite authors. He has great insight into the human condition. I'm glad you are hanging in there. Please remember that though your parents might restrict your body, your spirit is still free.
I do not know any LGBT folks who are not consumate Actors. It seems to come with the territory. I'm glad you caught on to that. I have a suggestion concerning the "Counselor" they are sending you to. This is one of those times to call on your acting skills.
Your role, "should you choose to accept it", is repentant son. Hesitate, drag your feet a little, then slowly seem to start listening. These idiots have two things working against them. First they think they are right, and you will see they are in the right. Second they beleive that they have insight into the "Perverts" mind.
The trick is to not let them catch on. If you give in too quickly they will notice. Let their arrogance do half the work. God Speed little Brother.
There is a good book about this sort of Shit, and coming out on the other side. It is about a girl in Britain that had a similar situation. At least reading it might help you to see you are not alone in the experience. The Title is "Oranges are not the only Fruit" by Jeanette Winterson, Atalantic Monthly Press, 1985. ISBN #0-87113-163-3. I do not know the Library code for it, It may be in your library at school.
I'm on Myspace, if you want to come for a visit. http://www.myspace.com/angeleliza41
I was raised in the Church of Thomas, so I was Blessed not to have these things done to me. I got into Ministry because a friend of mine from High school killed themselves because of what you are going through.
Hugs,
Angel

[Angeleliza41]

Hello Baigle,
Terry Pratchett is one of my favorite authors. He has great insight into the human condition. I'm glad you are hanging in there. Please remember that though your parents might restrict your body, your spirit is still free.
I do not know any LGBT folks who are not consumate Actors. It seems to come with the territory. I'm glad you caught on to that. I have a suggestion concerning the "Counselor" they are sending you to. This is one of those times to call on your acting skills.
Your role, "should you choose to accept it", is repentant son. Hesitate, drag your feet a little, then slowly seem to start listening. These idiots have two things working against them. First they think they are right, and you will see they are in the right. Second they beleive that they have insight into the "Perverts" mind.
The trick is to not let them catch on. If you give in too quickly they will notice. Let their arrogance do half the work. God Speed little Brother.
There is a good book about this sort of Shit, and coming out on the other side. It is about a girl in Britain that had a similar situation. At least reading it might help you to see you are not alone in the experience. The Title is "Oranges are not the only Fruit" by Jeanette Winterson, Atalantic Monthly Press, 1985. ISBN #0-87113-163-3. I do not know the Library code for it, It may be in your library at school.
I'm on Myspace, if you want to come for a visit. http://www.myspace.com/angeleliza41
I was raised in the Church of Thomas, so I was Blessed not to have these things done to me. I got into Ministry because a friend of mine from High school killed themselves because of what you are going through.
Hugs,
Angel