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 I used to live in Moorhead, back in the early 90'sYeah, I used to be mechanic and resource person for a lesbian motorcycle club, but once they saw how it was done they would just borrow my tools and do things themselves. Talk about making a guy feel useless. I used to own a bicycle shop. What is geocaching, putting parts of the world into a computer file? Doesn't make sense right off.  I'm not getting any job offers either. Backatcha, Bruce Chris
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Bruce... you're scaring me!  if I knew how to put world parts into a computer file - I'd have the perfect world for us! Geocaching is where one is the search engine - oh heck,.. read up on it yourself. www.geocaching.com Its very addicting once one plays the game!
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07-29-2008, 11:25 AM
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You missed the Moorhead part.
And hey, I have a lot of lesbian friends, but I assure you, I've never dated any of them. BC
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[QUOTE=BruceChris;59106]You missed the Moorhead part.
Ya sure, you betcha! I choose to ignore... 
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07-29-2008, 01:14 PM
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Welcome, PL!
Boy, you just get here, and you have mega action on your "Hi, My name is...." thread; what gives??? I had to come check it out. First of all, WHAT is in PA? More accurately you should ask, "WHO is in PA?" Why, soon to be betrothed keltic, his honey scott, and, well, ME!!! I live here, and while there are other parts of the world that are a bit more exciting, I think it rocks and my family and I love it here.... we live on the opposite end of the state from keltic, but we have a few friends there (he and scott included) that I hope we get to go visit soon....... so, if the economy there sucks, come on EAST, I say, EAST young woman!! (You are young, correct??!?!?)
Anyway, I make it a point to never try to be this funny because I am usually awful at it, so I promise it will never happen again....... Welcome to our whacky world.....stay if you dare........ 
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alright you begging people. Let me get some lunch, I will return to spill my story forth about my mistake PA living. Yes I made a boo boo looking for happiness....
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07-29-2008, 03:37 PM
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Grab your drinks....and stay awhile.
I will be telling this with a bit of embarrassment, shame, bitterness, anger and any other emotion not stated above. Also, this won't be in the best time line - I re-read it, and it seemed choppy, but you'll get the gist.
I will be speaking to others out there, as a warning, and or some of you may have your hands raised in the air saying: "I've been there and done that!" But than again - maybe I have stupid stamped on my forehead. ??? let me begin... As you recall, I'm originally from N.D. - the least visited State in the nation! And yes, gays hide in packs in closets there. Let's keep moving forward in my story. After I broke up with my first ever girlfriend (orginally from Cleveland Ohio) I felt lost, lonely, downright miserable and no where in N.D. to find someone I could love. Again, we were hiders! My ex moved back to Ohio while I remained stranded in N.D. and had no idea where or how to meet others such as myself. I didn't want to go back home to where my family was... I needed change! But...of course the Wide World Web had options for me, and I stumbled across a dating site and found someone that I liked and vice versa. Yes, it happend fast - and with a few weeks, I found myself moving to PA - smack dab in the middle of the state. The gal I met, flew to N.D. and assisted driving me to her hometown - that was nice! And, we had a great time journeying for two days on the road - we laughed, we giggled, made out our first night - we were great! Once we arrived to her delapitated housetrailer, did a flag go up, but I was too tired to give a damn. I took a nap before unloading what I had in the car, only to wake up to her freaking out and telling me to leave ASAP. Yeah,...HUH? She even threatened to call the PD and told one of her twin daughters to call since she was... deaf. (she was born deaf!) Her daughter couldn't help but say "Mommy,not this again!" I didn't understand "again" at this point. She was more or less freaking that her house was a pit (I didn't say a thing) but thought "It's hard having a house - it's a job having a house ie: the up-keep etc. etc. etc." I tried hard to reassure her that I am able to help her with the house, fix it up, etc. etc. because...- I'm nice that way! She finally calmed. Yes, I even helped with some remodeling. As time went on... I was starting to get sick - like physically sick. Like "Oh My God!", I'm dying sick. I could not figure out the cause - until I opened one of her pantry doors and found a load of moth balls - yup, moth balls - they do not treat me well! Then - another smell started to arise a few days later - that smell of cat pee. (Now I knew why she had the moth balls...used as a cover-up) She had two cats (which I was aware of) and two cat litter pans that were - never cleaned. Yeah! As I was getting out of my tired stupor, and my sluggish sick feeling did I start to realize that I made a boo boo, and I was too embarassed and ashamed to ask someone for help. SAVE ME. I knew no one in PA, where would I go???? I was stuck in a "pit" of a house that one would see on some dirty house makeover show. This strange woman that I was with (for 8 weeks total) worked only 3 days out of the week, and was home by 11 a.m. so making for an escape was difficult. She even came home for break to "check up" on me. I never felt like a hostage ever in my life, and here I was with a woman that watched me sleep, (literally stood by the side of the bed and watched), had to come home to check on me, and would often "freak out" by throwing her shoes around, pushing the table over, attempted suicide 3 times in front to me, locked herself in the bathroom, while also verbally (not a pun either - she was able to talk a bit) abusing her two daughters. I felt bad for the girls. - They were neglected, had nothing to eat (until I came along) had no blankets on their beds, had no friends. Sad! I had no idea what was wrong with this chic - she was strange and explosive, suspicious, mean, and tended to go from one emotion to the next in a split second. She was bipolar I swear. She would create a fight with me 2-3x's a week over stupid little things and it even got to that point that she destroyed my computer so I could not have outside contact with friends and family. She even destroyed my motorcycle where I was unable to go for relaxing rides. In our 7th week together she was getting mean and persistent in knowing my friends that I had etc..etc.. and told me no one likes me and I have no friends and I lied to her that I had friends. Again, I said huh? When I did not care to discuss my life with her, she started to throw punches at me. She was 4 inches taller than me, and heavier and I had no way to defend myself. As she kept pushing me around and striking my face, did I slap her - as a warning that I'll defend myself in return... It was difficult to talk to her - she was deaf, and my sign language was poor. Half the time, she would close her eyes - no sight, no hearing - how does one communicate to one like that??? Since she was deaf - she had no phone, and she managed to take my cell phone away from me and had it in her backpocket while she fought me - and my computer was destroyed. I had no way to call for help. I attempted to leave via the front door - only for her to push me away, and stand in front of it. I was held hostage and being beaten. I was even screaming at the top of my lungs for help - and no one came. The cop that lived next door - was at work! After the fact and I was long gone from PA, I have learned that this gal had a past, had felonies, misdemeanors, been on suicide watches, and the police have been at her house many a time. (If only I knew...) Now I understood her daughter's comment of "Mommy, not this again!" This was repeat behavior. Once our heated fight was over, she started to giggle and just wanted to see how I would react. She thought of me getting mad was funny. She apologized, asked for forgiveness and told me not to leave her. (I wanted to leave so bad....) I told her that I would be leaving the following morning (since the fight took place during the night) and she agreed after a few minutes that it would be o.k. She thought that maybe I could find my own place and we could still date. I DON't think so... My thought - FLEE! Later that night around 4 a.m. I heard her screwing around in the kitchen and living room and I thought nothing of it - she never slept and thought, she's just on her computer dinking around. I remained somewhat awake, thinking she's gonna stab me....! At 8 a.m. she was still putzing and huffing in anger over something. I decided to get out of bed and start my packing - only to see two police officers arrive. Not knowing this, she contacted the PD via her TYY system on her computer letting them know that I beat her up really bad. She turned the story around..........funny thing is - she had no marks on her and the PD noticed and took note of that. I was the one with the swollen face and the officers noticed. I quickly thanked them for coming and told them what happened a few hours earlier and I asked "When can I leave?" They said - "The sooner the better." I filed a report with the PD, as a packed. Even one officer helped me pack - he was familiar with this house, this lady and her behaviors.... A hour later - I was gone, but I had big items still left behind. I had no time to get a trailer to get my Mt. bike or motorcycle out of her shed. I had to return on a different day - which was a week later according to Psycho's time table. After my packing, I had no where to go, beside to my ex' place back in Cleveland. I was scared and beaten down in all aspects. How could I have been so blind and stupid??? I had a 6 hr. drive ahead of me, and had no idea how to get to Cleveland or best - my ex's place. My emotions were so high - I cried all 6 hours, and don't recall much of the blurry PA highway/scenic views. (Note: my ex and I are good friends.) Two days later I went back to PA to get my bike - I could care less about my other items that happened to be left behind - I wanted my expensive bike - now. Once the deaf psycho seen that I was back (I had my ex along for safety) she freaked out, got in her pickup and sped off. She was gone for 4 hours, while I contacted the PD to let them know I was back "just" to get my bike. They refused to assist me and or get involved. I was pissed! I had no choice but to go back to Ohio and sit and worry about my bike. Once that week was over - more like 2 weeks were over since psycho did not want me to come and get my bike - she wanted me back and to work things out. She begged and pleaded - she was sick! My thought? Ah... NO! In the meantime - she emailed me and told me that my bike was vandalized and that she filed a report and that I could verify the report with the PD. I did call the PD - and they had no report. Again, 4 days later she contacted me and told me she filed a report and to take her serious. Again, I called the PD - still no report of vandalization. I gave up - stopped playing her game. About 2 weeks later, her ex mother-in-law (psycho was married once) contacted me and told me that my bike was mentioned in the paper - I was furious! The bitch went through beating the hell out of my bike. I called the PD, and the officer said that he took photos and the bike was in poor shape. I cried!!! The PD believed strongly that she did it, but don't understand why she stated that she reported it several times - and it wasn't. Lots of suspicion on her behalf. This past Oct. I was able to get my bike - and it took forever for pycho to open her delapitated shed once I did return. Once opened - I seen why in her delay in opening. My baby was vandalized, and tears came to my eyes. I know now why I couldn't get my bike two days later - I know why it took forever to return to get my bike - she had something to hide from me. Psycho kept stating "please don't sue me, please don't sue me... I took her to court! And she was almost put into jail. If one of her past crimes didn't have expired - she would've been there!!! The crime lab back in PA is still working on the vandalization - so I'm not done with her and I'm hoping for jail time for her. A few online friends contacted me via email (once I got back onto a computer) and told me that "the psycho" chic had a new G.F. with 5 weeks after my departure. Psycho goes online to "have" friends while she tends to spill her guts - which has helped me in my court case against her.  I don't know about you - but she seems desperate and controlling. Again, can we say bi-polar? Like a book title that is out there which so reminds me of this 8 week relationship : I hate you, please don't leave me! So there you have it - my mishap in PA. I did like PA - but not where I lived for 8 weeks. So, please beware of online dating. My first girlfriend and I met online and lasted 3 years. My current GF - we met online and I couldn't be happier. But I learned to use judgement!
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My sister moved to California with a guy like that.
And then there was "The Roommate From Hell"
 Most of us have been there, but I'll spare y'all, and cut this short. Peace and Wise Choices, Bruce (Screwed up too) Chris 
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Welcome Prairielesbian!
Glad you found your way here. See, you've already met some more lesbians, including our honorary lesbian BruceChris, and well I guess now our other honorary lesbian Andy. And some gay guys. And one of the most famous Bi's in the universe. We even have some of the most wonderful T's too! It's a great place, full of excellent diversity, intelligent conversation, some unintelligent conversation, jokes and ideas. We aren't so much into labels, but more into enjoying what each of us has to offer as indivduals.
 Many of us will appreciate your humor too! Oh, the sister huh??? I have one too. We still talk, but never about my partner. We aren't allowed over, she refuses to come to our house. And of course, I haven't seen my niece or nephew in at least 2 years. I can't believe how grown up they are now, I soon won't recognize them if I do get to see them. and, best of all tomorrow I get to have lunch with her and break some shocking news which shall surely drop her jaw to the ground, yet result in no reply...  I getcha on the family stuff!! Glad you're here, hope you stick around and continue to slay us with your wit. There are many witty folks, so this could result in an overload of laughs, injured tummies and headaches but will be worth it!! Tdogg
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sorry that my story was long - but there was no "short" to it.
I'm just glad I'm gone and safe!!! I've lived, I've learned and hopefully I taught....Do I want to go back to that particular area of PA - NO!
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07-29-2008, 10:38 PM
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Weclome PraireLesbian
I'm really glad that you found your way here. And please don't apologize for the length of your tale! It's great that you shared it. A cautionary tale perhaps, but a good one at that. My head was nodding back and forth as I read it. Jeez! I thought. This is something else!
I'm glad that you got through that experience in once piece. One thing breaks my heart: what is gonna happen to those two girls? My God. That's really hard to contemplate. Again- thanks so much for sharing so much of yourself. Oh....I grew up in Pittsburgh. A great town. Not too far from Keltic. Ha!
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07-30-2008, 07:44 AM
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One thing breaks my heart: what is gonna happen to those two girls? My God. That's really hard to contemplate.
I have no idea what will eventually happen to those girls. All I know is that they make friends online and they have myspace pages (I have myspace, not a bad thing) but.. - the kicker, one of the girls portrays to be 18 yrs old - she's only 12. She has also contacted men in Texas - I seen that myself while I was still there. Not only do the girls have no blankets for their bed nor decent food to eat they have a father that they spend time with (which is good) but one should see his house - bat infested!!!! I can only feel "stupid" to realize that I lived in a world that was not my kind. I come from a different socioeconomic background while well....I seen firsthand how some live in poverty with lack of mental health. I do have a degree in Psychology, so I know what I mean by bi-polar and yes, she had all the criteria for it. Textbook criteria... This gal that I was with - I don't hate her (I'm not a hater) - I feel down right sorry for her. There is so much more to the story - I could talk about the court case, I could tell you more "red" flags, I could tell about her signs of desperation, I could send each and everyone of you emails from her along with suicide notes and threatening chats - all composed by her. Needless to say, I am almost tempted to send in the emails (to Universities) for Psychology professors to study and teach from....AMAZING! Well, onto the next topic folks....
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[QUOTE=Vanessa White;59110]Boy, you just get here, and you have mega action on your "Hi, My name is...." thread; what gives???
V, I'm only contagious!
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But You Also Bring An Infectious Laugh
And today, I just hope I've brought one too.
(General Discussions) Namaste', Bruce Chris
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Welcome to soulforce. I also have lost my brother and have nothing to do with my neice. He has to "protect her from my choice..." Like its a choice. I also have lost my grandmother and father, but my mother is very suportive and also angry at all the antigay agenda crap out there. It kinda makes up for it all. I am glad you have found us and we are pretty friendly!
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Hey Teresa!!!
Welcome
 ,You got quite a bit of response from your initial post... I get to read it all over lunch. But, till then, your thread title made me laugh, I think we will be friends. Oh, and don't worry about being "contagious." I'm gay and immune from lesbianism, so we can be friends. paul
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this thread
well its the most interesting thread I've ever read on here... granted I haven't been on here long but still... you seem like an interesting person... if anything makes me happy about the story about your sister, its that you don't let her bring you down. I'm a T, and bi... welcome.
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She has this issue (homosexuality) to deal with - I've done my job of coming out and speaking to the rest of us that need to be educated. I am human and I am normal. There's a lot of us out there too!!!! The sad bit here - my sis mentioned to my mom that she is seeking counsel on trying to understand homosexuality - but via "church" views. Again,... a feeding ground where hatred starts - in the pulpit. I refuse to be demeaned a failure and a sinner condemned to Hell for who I am. I'm waiting for the day when the world turns around and bashes brown eyed people. - again, I'd be included in that category of "wrong..." Today, I will try to build my group of hate towards those that wear Sanuks. People have to crawl out of their boxes and "see" the world. GEEZ!
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