What Bisexuality means to me

[tymejumper]

I get angry at all the stupidity about bisexuality out there. I have a fiend that is struggeling with her identity and is bisexual. People are so glib and telling her that she should be happy because she has more prospects. Howeveer, she is really very depressed because she is scared to fall in love or make a decision because she is worried that she will be with one person and always wonder, "hey, is there more for me with the same sex? how about the oposite one?". We talk often and I have told her that just because she is bi does not mean that she has to date both sexes at once, just that she is able to be fufilled with either one.

She has been dating a guy as of late, but they have decided to be friends. She says she has not really felt in love with anyone, but has had only fleeting relationships with women so she would not know if it could work with a woman more that with a man.

I feel her depression and confusion is stemming from others biphobia.

[Gennee]

Originally Posted by BrianB

Amen to that!!! What has happened in my experience is that I end up with another bi' person. Gay people think you're just in a phase. Straight people think you just took a detour on the "wild" side.

A phase? How can anybody think that? I'm transgender and it's not a phase, that's for sure. With transgender people, there's the perception that we don't know if we want to be a man or a woman.

Gennee

[BrianB]

Originally Posted by Gennee

A phase? How can anybody think that? I'm transgender and it's not a phase, that's for sure. With transgender people, there's the perception that we don't know if we want to be a man or a woman.

Gennee

Being bisexual is often seen as a transitional phase to becoming completely gay. For some people this is true. However, some of us are truly bisexual and happy with that orientation. First and foremost you are a person regardless of orientation or gender identity.