Request for thoughts and prayers

[Vanessa White]

Hello friends: I made a one of the most difficult decisions of my life some time ago, and followed through this week. I ended my ten year relationship with my partner, after being unhappy for quite some time. It felt more painful to stay in it than to leave it, although the leaving is very painful to feel and to watch. We have a daughter, so I hope that both of us can keep her as the main focus of our energy and efforts. I am asking for strength, guidance, and support, and prayers for a watchful eye on our daughter for her to be okay when all is said and done. I have been hesitant to reach out in this way, because I don't like to ask others for help, but I consider you all as friends, I have learned so much about myself here, with all of you, and I really need you and your energy. Thank you for all that you do here. Peace, Vanessa

[keltic63]

prayers for you Vanessa, your daughter and your partner. God Bless you all.

[suzer1013]

Vanessa -- my thoughts and prayers are with you, your partner and your daughter. This will be a difficult time, and I know the grief process over the loss of a relationship is not easy. I wish all of you the peace of God's love during this transition in your lives.

Susan

[Daniel]

Originally Posted by Vanessa White

I have been hesitant to reach out in this way, because I don't like to ask others for help, but I consider you all as friends, I have learned so much about myself here, with all of you, and I really need you and your energy.

Vanessa- My prayers are with you all. Breakin' up is had to do. And though it may not be easy for you, please keep reaching out. I think you'll find that many will be there for you, both in your personal life and here on the SF forum. I hear you about reaching out: I have my issues with that too. But I know doing so has changed my life. May the circle of prayer be wide and deep this morning.

[Zerbie]

Dear Vanessa,

Of course you have our hugs, our love, and our prayers.


That also goes out to your partner and your daughter. What a difficult time - I can't even imagine what it must be like.

We are your friends here and we care about you very much. I'm glad you reached out.

Zerbie

[Vanessa White]

Thank you, all- I feel quite lifted up already, and I know that the prayer will help with making the journey somewhat easier, or at least more bearable. Peace to all.

[Mia14]

I'm glad you shared it with us and I know we'll keep you near and dear until things get brighter.

This little group has become something of a family... let us support you and grieve with you while you're under this great change. If you need anything, let us know. Ultimately, your daughter will be happy that you were honest with the situation and made a better place for her - I'm sure of it. This isn't an ending for you, it's just a fork in the road and you've chosen a path.

[tdogg]

Vanessa,

I'm so sorry you are having to go through a difficult time right now. I'm thinking of you and praying for God's peace to you in your decision and future, and your daughter. No matter what, if you continue to show your daughter that you love her and care, she will know it.

I hope you have a bright and happy future - in the near future - ahead of you. These times are sad and hard to get through, but once the decision is made you can grow stronger and healthier especially with the support of people who care about you. I'm praying for you girl and sending hugs your way!

[Vanessa White]

I just wanted to give a brief update. Today is better than a week ago was. That is progress. I just got back from a trip across the state for work, but the break from the tension at home was needed for me. I am feeling quite resolved in my decision, but have such a sense of guilt over it. I do believe that it will get better, and that joy will again show itself to me, although my daughter brings me the greatest joy there is. I feel guilty for being hopeful. I do know that, no matter how difficult it remains, or how many uncertain days ahead, that the choice made is the right one and I need to trust it. Thank you for all of your support and love- it means so much more than I can even express. PEace all, Vanessa

[Zerbie]

You have all our best wishes. Never having been through as big a breakup, I can't speak from any experience. I can only say that it's to be expected that you'll have all kinds of emotions as you take this journey. You seem certain that you've made the right decision, so keep that firmly in mind when you feel badly.

And thank you for the update, I was wonderin' aboutcha.