Hello all

[KrisFro]

Hello All, My Name is Kris and I am a 40 year old mother who I guess has known for a looooong time that my daughter was gay, lol. From the time she was little, she was THE biggest tom boy around, she played foot ball from the time she was 6 or 7 all the way till her freshman year in high school when she figured out the Boys weere getting WAY to big. We have always lived in small communities where everyone knows everyone. I myself was raised in a pretty strict Christian Reformed home, well that was until I got pregnant at 16 and had VERY bad experience with the pastor at the church we were attending at the time, I haven't been back to church much since then. But my theory on religion is that you don't HAVE to be a member of a "Church" to be a good, Spirtiual person, I have my beliefs and I respect others beliefs. That is pretty much my whole outlook about life in general.....Through out the years I have had several gay people in my life, AND the lives of my kids.......my daughter, has ALWAYS become VERY close to them, and now I am realizing why, although I never really put 2 and 2 together until the last several months to a year. She could relate to them and found comfort in their relationships....I have read alot on things people feel when their kids come out to them....and Yea I have felt alot of them feelings. I always thought I was open minded, and I wanted my kids to be able to talk to me about things, but they were all scared and still are, to tell me ANYTHING....I don't really know why, I think it is because I have taught them (not on purpose) to try to make everyone happy, and they figured the things going on would not make me happy,or would dissapoint me, and I have failed as a mother to teach them to make THEMSELVES happy.....so that is what I will strive to do......or should I say my daughter IS teaching ME to do.....lol. I look forward to getting to know some new friends

[bnmoore]

When I came out to my mother 34 years ago it was horrifying. I didn't come out to my dad until this past Friday. He just looked at me and said "I've always known". He was in town for the weekend and had lunch with my minister and me. He pretty much just sat there and bragged about me the whole time. It was sort of embarrassing. I had no idea he was so proud of his gay son. It was a truly healing experience. He just called me to reinforce that a few minutes ago. My sister had told me last week that it was okay to bring a date when I came to visit. Wow. Good one God, thanks. Who says there's no such thing as miracles?

Dad was also given six months to live back in 2007. He's still here.

[Gennee]

First of all, welcome to Soulforce. I understand the feelings that you have, Kris. Six years ago I came out to my wife as transgender at age fifty-six. She was shocked at first when I told her that I like wearing women's clothing. As time as passed, she has come to accept this part of me. My son and his gf know that I am transgender.

It's wonderful that you're daughter is helping you to undersand what it is to be gay. I'm sure that she appreciates your willingness to understand. I look forward to future posts from you.

Gennee

[mykris]

hello everyone, I'm glad I found this site. My best friends are a gay and a lesbian. I love them and I'm happy to have them in my life. They are such wonderful people and we get along very well even if we have different sexual orientation. I hope other people could also find acceptance and respect in their hearts because these people are also humans and have feelings and they deserve to be treated equally.

[Gennee]

Welcome to the site, mykris. Gennee