Thoughts

[Rainbow kittens]

I am still new to forums and threads. I do not always remember where I read everything!
Some of what I read causes me to do some thinking. I have decided to post a few thoughts here, as I do not recall which thread to head off to.

When you are coming out you will lose some people and gain others. Loss is a part of life. Just because someone walks away from you that you love, does not require that you stop loving that person. You can not control others. Do not lose your self worth! You are of great worth just because you walk among us here on earth. Some of the people you lose will return. If it is an ex-girlfriend or boy-friend that you have told you can no-longer continue a relationship with (due to “you’re not the gender for me”), remember they have some new thoughts to deal with. Keep your self open and allow yourself to experience the love, loss, pain or what ever you are feeling. Feelings are normal. You are still a person of worth. Often when we keep our true selves from others and we find out a “trust” issue pops up. They often feel like what else have you chosen not to tell me?
Try to continue to love that person. Our hearts are made to love many people in many ways. If you are preparing to come out, do not empower others with your own negative words. Try not to start with statements showing negative thoughts, I know you will be disappointed, but I want to tell you I am gay. Will you ever speak to me again?
It sounds as if you have a reason for them to be disappointed! Remember your worth! Tell them you have wonderful news to share. I have wonderful news to share with you. I am gay. If you want to get together and talk I am looking forward to sharing how wonder I feel about being me. If people become verbally abusive, stop the conversation! Leave on a positive note! Put”their issue” back on them. I am sorry you feel that way. I am sorry you have an issue with this. End the conversation with how you feel about them. I care about you or I love you. Remember no-one has to stand by and allow them-selves to be abused, in any manner! If you feel you are in physical danger Get Out! Practice with people you trust. Just saying what you want to say to maybe a parent to your friend first in a practice can help you relax and have your thoughts in order.
I am by no means a professional. Just someone that cares about all of you and wanted to share some of what has helped me, loved ones and friends!

I AM LESBIAN! YEPPIE!

God/dess does not love me depending on who I love!